Tips for dating a shy guy
I really wanted a partner to share my life with, but one wasn’t going to fall out of the sky and magically talk to me. And thus began an amazing transformation of shy guy in the shadows to comfortable man in his surroundings. How the hell would you even transform from lurking in the shadows waiting for people to talk to you, to being out there and having no problems with social attention.That’s not to say that I don’t still get overwhelmed in a big group of people, because at my core, I’m still an introvert at heart, and big groups of people zap my energy, but now, I’m comfortable in that situation and I have no problems with being the centre of attention. Well, whilst not a definitive list, here are a few great pointers to get yourself out there.Sadly, being shy isn’t conducive to drumming up any interest for yourself.A good lady friend of mine, and one that I had been interested in for years said something to me that I’ll never forget.Here’s the thing though, if you don’t learn to find time for yourself and be your own person then no-one is going to be very interested in you.Get yourself a hobby, find yourself an interest and go out there and be a bit too busy. Nothing says trip to snoozeville more than a guy that’s positively predictable and incredibly boring. Taking her somewhere she would love to go, and being different from the general populous could mean the difference between, “Oh just some guy that I went on a date with….” to “wow, the best date I ever had” Be respectful dude.
Beating your shyness is a process that takes time, but you can do it, so just accept the fact that it’s going to be uncomfortable and possibly even terrifying. Never run away from the interaction, but practice managing tension. Find people who share those interests and join up with them. There’s nothing wrong with it, as long as you don’t let it control you and hinder your quality of life.After knowing some people for ten minutes I generally have a good idea if I want to be in their presence or stay a million miles away. So, basically, make sure she’s aware that you exist.And not through a friend of a friend, make sure she’s talked to you at least once and for about five minutes.Most shy guys have the first hurdle licked with a woman that they are interested in but fall flat on their face at this hurdle.Friendzones (I hate that word) are a thing because you guys don’t communicate your intentions clearly.